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Arg, I hate having to be the a*****e sweatdrop

Ok, I believe I have formulated a good question that situates the way I feel in certain situations.

Imagine this:
There's a person of some sort. They are either a huge jerk or extremely dense/naive/whatever. A somewhat uncomfortable situation happens where this person is experiencing somewhat of a culture shock and it could possibly change their perspective to one that would profit them if they came to grips with it. Only problem is that they are a little bull-headed (like myself sweatdrop ) and don't really want to admit it.

The question is: Are you going to be the person who sits by quietly, avoiding confrontation and hoping they learn their lesson or go straight to the point and tell them their underlying flaw, thereby completing the experience that might give them the kick in the a** they needed to realize what was going on? You observe or take action?

The a*****e is the one that usually takes action. Sadly, they get little to no recognition, later on, whether they succeeded or not in giving someone the little extra edge they needed to change.

I don't know why, but it feels like I have to be the a*****e half the time because nobody else will. It's not like the a*****e always WANTS to be the a*****e! It's hard to push someone so harshly, especially when they're a good friend. Sometimes I will sit there and hope they figure it out but...uhg, people never seem to learn things without someone else's help sometimes, you know? sweatdrop In fact, that's usually something that MANY people don't know and need to figure out (usually the hard way stare ).

I know I have plenty of my own ruts I need to pull out of and I'm really working on it (dear god I am working on it!), but I can't always sit there and watch everyone else avoid the obvious answers to their questions! Sometimes, you need someone outside the situation to look at it for you (Kinda like when you're playing a game and you can't beat this one level for the life of you! So you leave it and come back in a few days and, all of the sudden, you beat it as if it's nothing! Screws with your head, no?).
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And now, I will discuss some of my irritating night/evening. Oh yes, this is a double topic entry this time. Aren't you lucky?
...eh, you don't care. You'll probably go watch a movie later and forget completely...maybe even masterbate, who knows!

well, everyone was planning to go see the Donnie Darko midnight movie. For some stupid reason, they wanted to meet at Mecca at 9:30. I believe it was stupid because, the last I checked, Mecca closed at like...8 or 9 and the area is full of muggers, hobos and hippies...I sure as hell wouldn't want to hang out there during late hours of the night.

I tried to go anyways because a friend of mine is going to be leaving wedensday and I probably won't see her before she's off. I figured I would go to at least show her that I wanted to say goodbye.

Unfortunately, my ride wore herself out and was very grumpy/bitchy about dropping me off at a halfway point to avoid going the whole way and wasting gas blah blah blah. She should have been more accepting since I've been paying for her god-damned gas for the last month. She should be kissing my a** with these damned gas prices. She would have been broke now if it weren't for me...and I'd be ********' rich, dammit!

Afterwards (from costing me my ride by wasting time over fighting) she came back ad realized she might have been a tad too grumpy. We laughed about it because she made me stir up some ramen for her before we were supposed to go. I made it and told her she could eat it after the drop-off.

"But it'll get cold!"
"I'll put a lid on the pot, then! It'll stay warm for hours!"
"It's going to get soggy when the noodles absorb all the broth and taste bad!"
"Not if I keep it warm!"
"*inaudible whining*"
"Well, fine, put it in some gladware and take it with you!"
"How am I supposed to eat and drive?!"
"I'll drive the first half, dammit, you can eat then!"

That argument lasted a little while. Once that was done, we had wasted enough time so that my friend couldn't wait for me to get dropped off at her place any longer. Then I was stuck between trying to tell my friend over the phone that my ride was delusional and my ride that her suggestions of meeting halfway wouldn't work because my friend's house WAS the halfway...that was extremely exhausting @.@;

--Ack, gotta cut this short, I found an earwig- gonna go kill it! *grabs shoe*