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Hello fellow Gaians!

Been alot of changes here.

Been alot in my real life too.

Have had some serious health issues, and was introduced to World of Warcraft.

Reason why most have not seen me here in a very long time.

Someone tried to hack my account is what drew me back. (don't worry, change my password access)

Glad to see still alot of friends still here. I will try to check back here from now on at least once a week.

How has everyone been? I miss talking to some, but have made some wonderful friends on WOW. Plus my sister, brother and son play it too.

Drop me a line.

What an interesting wrestling match my son had. Barely made it there do to some sucky directions. Away match. His opponent was about same size in height and in weight. But a bit more muscular build. So I was a bit apprehensive for my son.

Round one: 2 min
The grapple onto each other. Circling around and around, son takes him down somewhat hard (2 points for son). Son rolls him over onto his back and tries for a pin (3points for son). Opponent is trying to get out, and struggles free. But son gains control again and gets him down again. (2 points for son) End of round one: son=7 points, opponent=0 points.

Round two: 1 min
Ref flips coin and son gets to decide if he wants to be on top or bottom hold in start of round. (One wrestler on all fours is on the bottom, other wrestler over him and on top of other with one hand on elbow and other hand around stomach.) Son decides to be on top, they get into position. Opponent lunges forward at whistle, trying to break free from son and get up on his feet. While attempting this opponent rears back head as he lifts torso, son is still on his back and trying to hold on to him and not him break from his hold. Opponents back of head meets sons right cheek bone under eye. (Later I found out son got a bit dizzy from impact, but knew if he let go it would be a mistake, so he held on tighter.) Son does not let him get away, but opponent gets up after a bit of struggling and son grabs him and throws him down again.(2 points for son)Son then grabs one of opponents legs and shoulder to flip him on his back and tries for a pin. (on struggles for the pin, but opponent keeps shoulder up and time runs out of round. (3 points for son) End of round two: son=12 points, opponent=0 points

Round three: 1 min
(My observation of son's face. His right cheek was swelling up, I could tell he was hurting from it. He was breathing very hard, and from look on his face I was thinking he was worn out and might not have more energy to go for another pin attempt.) This time opponent is on top and son is on bottom in wrestler's hold. Whistle blows and to my surprise, son lurches forward and whips around fast on top of opponent. Grabs his opponents back and struggles to roll him over. Son finally rolls him by grabbing leg for leverage and lays on top of opponent with dead weight, toes on ground only for leverage and apply pressure. PIN! Five seconds still left on clock.
I was surprised by the energy he still had in reserve and the speed and agility he showed to the end. Needless to say I WAS A BEAMING MOM!!!!

Might have to take him to doctor to make sure he doesn't have a hairline fracture on cheekbone, but no matter what he will have one hell of a shiner. He proudly beamed about black eye "I will wear it like a badge of honor!" I laugh and call him a goofball!

Well alot has happened. Brief catch up:
1. Son dumped ungrateful gf.
2. Son got new one....she lasted only a month. She wasn't quite ready for a serious BF as my son is, with flowers and movie dates and the likes.
3. I took 2 accrediation tests for work and test results are still pending, prob not till end of this month till I get results.
4. Sis, her finace, and a friend came down the week before thanksgiving. We had a blast, i spent most of the time chauffering them and cooking for them including thanksgiving a week earlier since they wouldn't be here for it. They complimented my cooking, and said they wanted to hire me as their permanent cook. lol
5. Football season ended for my son, and he was like "What do i do now?" So he joined the Wrestling team of his school.


Yesterday, my son had his first wrestling match. I was excited but at the same time anxious for him to do well. He is on the varsity team of the wrestling team, which means he is better than some of his team mates. They started with the smallest weight class, which meant my son was the last of the varsity team to wrestle. When it was his turn, he lined up on the matt, apparently very phsyched and anxious as well, even though they weren't exactly ready for him to start, they were having timer problems.

For those who have never seen a wrestling match here is a quick explanation. Three rounds a match: First 2 mins, Second 1 min, Third is one min. Points are awqarderd for manipulating your opponent onto his back and or floor, 2 points. For almost pinning them on flat on there back, 3 points. If your opponent is in control of the situation and you flip it & gain control of opponent, 2 points. Pinning opponent with both shoulders on the matt is an automactic win, no matter what the points are.

Once his match started, I was truly impressed with his pretty quick and agile movements. He is rather a big boy for his age, he is of the heaviest weight division of the wrestling team. Whistle blew, so he quickly got his opponent on his back (2 points) and he managed to almost pin him down within a minute (3 points). Opponent wriggled out and up on thier feet. This was done in less than one minute. They moved around the matt, my son and opponent (of about same size) locked arms, and my son grappled his leg to knock him down again onto his back (2 points), then son pins him onto matt grabbing opponents one leg to force opponents shoulders down. PIN! My son's first wrestling match ever, and he won! I was so proud!!! He won the match in less than 1 min and 45 secs.

This morning wrestling team went to a tournament, 12 hours. Son had 5 matches. He won 3 and lost 2. Coach said one he lost was truly to a bad call from the referee. But all in all, he is happy with his performance. As I am very proud of him also. So his record is now 4 wins 2 losses. Not bad for a beginner. I think he plans to continue with wrestling next year in high school. Which I fully hope to support him in it and watch him at every event possible. I went to almost every football game he had this year for school, I enjoy and know football very well. Wrestling, I am a bit ignorant in, but I found to be pretty exciting and plan on learning it to the best of my abilities.

Mom's procedure went well considering how bad one artery was damaged by heart disease. All is done and she is back home resting. I did my sermon as I took her home that she needs to take better care of herself. Hope it will do good, but only time will tell. We have never gotten along very good. As it stands, I think I am her least favorite child, but that's how I have always felt (at least around her).
I am just glad it went well, and she is feeling better. I now she may now finally realize that heart disease is nothing to play with.

My son has is a bit dissappointed in girlfriend at the moment. He hadn't been able to see her in over a week and a half. And he showed up with flowers and she hardly even acknowleged his presence or even thanked him for them, not that she had to, but she had always done so before. She later told him, that this friend, who she thinks as a brother has been telling her that the reason son gives her flowers and gifts is that he is trying to buy her affection and is trying to get into her pants. First off, she has even admitted knowing this guy has a crush on her. And she is listening to him. Son felt very confused by this all. Also very hurt she would even think that of him. He has never touched her inappropriately at any time, and has had plenty of oppurtunities to if that's what he was like that. All he has done is held her hand, kissed her and hugged her.
For some reason she feels guilty about the flowers he buys for, like she needs to pay him back for them. I don't know where she gotten this idea.
But i know son will do what is right, and talk to her. Maybe point out this guy is doing this to try to get them to break up so he will get a chance to go out with her. But if she continues to think son is type that is looking for sex, then she doesn't really know son, and that's what hurts son the most. If that happens he will probably break up with her. It is just so incredulous that she thinks of him in such a lecharious way. I have raised my son to be a near perfect gentleman. He opens doors for ladys, he helps old lady's with grocery bags, he plays big brother to little kids. he didn't even kiss her first, she kissed him.

Work is okay, but am getting run around by boss. And I am about to loose it soon if she doesn't take care of things she has promised. domokun

Took my mother to hospital today to have a heart catherization done. They were checking her for blockage in her heart arteries. They found one artery blocked 80%. They immediately scheduled her to go to another hospital to have 3 splints to keep her artery open because it can't keep open by itself. Monday will be a long day. Called boss and asked for Monday as a vacation day. It should be a simple procedure, but still a little worried. Me and my mom have never gotten along too well. But she is my mom.

Son was promoted to a higher language arts class. I am very proud of him. Teacher and counselor are prepping him for maybe AP classes next year. Will look great on college transcripts. Son thinks it's hilarious, he is a smart jock, helluva oxy-moron.

Son hurt his knee in football practice and is out for the week. He took a football helmet to the knee. Sprained his knee, but no permanent damage, just to rest it a week. Son was not too happy about it, got kinda upset cuz now he missed a game.

Looking forward to next few of months. The last few months of the year is my favorite time of the year. eek Jeebus, 2/3rds of the year is almost gone.
I LOVE Halloween. Will be digging through boxes to decorate for Halloween. twisted
Looking forward to Thanksgiving cuz my lil sis is coming down with her girlfriend (finace) and some other friends, so I will have a full house. ^.^ It will be a blast. In November I will be taking some very important certification exams for work, I know I will do very well. wink
December.....what can I say, spending on son for x-mas has always been the most fun I have all year. The one day I can pamper son without feeling the guilt of spoiling him. ^.^ Not that I buy alot for him throughout the year, mostly just buy what he needs and occasional small splurge of something he wants. But X-mas, I go all out and spoil him till the next year. xd

I set up rules in shop. But no one reads them. Prices I have are set, but still people try to haggle, wasting my time and theirs. I tell them no pm's. PM's are always waiting for me domokun I tell them set price....they haggle more. domokun I say don't pm me to beg for donations or beg, they do anyways domokun

Having issues with school administration. Tried to talk to principle, and when she could not assure me problem was being handled properly, I informed her I planned on taking it up with the School Board. She had the nerve to say "I WARN you that you do not know all the details and the criteria that needs to be met to consider 4 boys picking on 2 boys as bullying." scream Who the hell does she think she is talking to, talking to me in that condescending tone, warning me like there will be some punishment or reprimand for me talking to the School Board. Who does she thinks pays her and the School Board's salary. scream My damn high a** tax dollars!!!! scream

First off, her complete attitude was completely negative. She already had an attitude when she even began talking to me, and I hadn't even said a word. The reason I called her was to request her to investigate that if proper dealings were done in the matter of these 4 boys who have been trying and have succeded in starting fights with my son and his friend. Also I found out that, these boys have been harassing son's friend so much, they moved son's friend to another class. So when he left class, cuz son was his friend, they started in on him. Son ended up decking one of them. He got suspended, but I found out later that boy who started fight, which to start a fight is considered the same as fighting, did not get punished. I have no problems with that my son was punished, but with other child who didn't get punished for pushing him as my son tried to walk away from incident before it escaladed.
My point is, if they knew these 4 boys were giving one boy a problem, and then moved on to another boy, being my son. Why haven't they broken up these boys? Why haven't they been suspended or put in In School Suspension? Why haven't they broken those boys up into different PE classes instead of moving the targeted ones and making them feel like they're the ones to blame for standing up to them and their verbal onslaughts, physical pushing, and verbal threats. If these boys are left together, who will be next victim for their bullying tactics?!?!
I called School Board, and they are starting an investigation against Principal and they're actions in their actions taken or untaken with regards to these incidents. Am considering legal action as to taking out a police report on the 4 boys who are trying to bully others and the school for not addressing the problem faster. It is against state law for anyone to use verbal threats of causing harm, verbal abuse, or physical contact in effort to intimidate another child to feeling threatened physically or mentally.

My son went over to his friends house for the day. His friend was having a b-day party. Son's friend has a very pretty sister who is also in his school and in same grade. So she hits on my son, and is flirting with my son all through the b-day party.
Then son finds out from his friend that some other girl from son's grade also likes him as well, and has been emailing son's friend trying to find out about son, and if he has a girlfriend. Son is just severely in shock (me not as much in shock). But since he is with someone at the moment, he let her down as gently as he could. He told her she could better than him. And that she should pick a guy that acts the same with his friends as he does around her. And that if she needed a second opinion about a guy, to see if he is a good guy who will treat her right, he would be happy to check him out for her.
Son doesn't think he is that kewt, but now has all these possiblities. he is very flattered and shocked. He wondered out loud where were these girls when he was single, but at the same time said, he remembered what i told him a while ago. That some people just want what they can't have, and would love to get in the middle, and he is not that type of guy. He is loyal, and would remain loyal to death.
When I picked up son, his friend admitted to me his sister liked him. And he gave him a senario test to see what his response was. Basically to see what kind of guy son was, and to see i guess if he decided to go with his sister, if he was really a good guy or just a dog. Son passed his test, but understands he has a girlfriend.
We got home and talked a while about it. He doesn't want to mess up what he gots now with his girlfriend, and says he would never cheat on her. I asked him if he was going to tell GF about this all. He said he is not sure. He doesn't want to hurt her feelings or make her feel bad in any way, so he might not. I can respect that.

Work.....ARGHHHHHH.....wanted to kill co-worker. She has appointed herself the trainer of this new employee, and was trying to showboat her a**. She just pissed me off like hell. Thank God i don't have to see her for 2 days. Not only did she steal one of my sales, but she started barking orders at me, when i was trying to help a customer. Boss saw it, ^.^ she told her off, that i was helping a customer and she should not have interrupted me. But she still annoyed the hell out of me stare Really wish she would just quit. She is my biggest problem at work. She can be a wonderful person, outside of work. But she gets power trips. Even though she knows i know more about optical business than she does. She constantly and conviently forgets, that it's me who she comes to when she can't handle something. I just want to choke her scream domokun xp twisted

Well let's see. This past sunday, son had another date with girlfriend. This time we hung out at her house with her family. Son's girlfriend's step-dad, kept going into room to check on them. >.< But my son was a good boy. They were just talking and stuff. But son later admitted that when he came in one time, they had just finshed kissing.....so yea. He had bought her a inexpensive silver earrings, Japanese kanji of "love" and gave them to her. She hugged him and kissed him. whee Anyways, it seems son has made quite the impression with her parents, and they have given him a great approval and they think very highly of him. That helps when parents likes the person thier child is going out with. 3nodding
We are going up again this Sunday and plan on going to church with her and her family. And then their date.

Wed....son told me about this guy in his school who kept challenging him to fight. Son warned him twice not to push him, but he did anyways. Son warned him again that if he pushed him, that he would lay him out flat.

Thurs....at work i get a call from Asst Principle. Son had gotten into a fight with same boy who has been bothering him. Son had another confrontation with same boy, he warned him again not to mess with him. That boy pushed him again when my son turned to walk away and try to avoid it. Son turned around and socked him 3 times. First puch was the most damaging. Son was trying to aim for his cheek or eye, but ended up punching him above eye, almost on temple. Left boy with a red lump on his forehead. Son was not hurt in anyway. But apparently son hit him so hard that the boy not asking but crying that he wanted to go home. Son got suspended for one day, and boy who started it got suspended for 2 days.
If you have nerve enough to challenge someone to fight, then you better be prepared for the consequences. I knew son was being severely irritated by that boy, and i knew something might come from it. Maybe that boy will learn his lesson and stop trying to prove something. If not, gave son a talking to about trying to talk his way out, but if that boy shoves him again....i would understand. There is a time to walk away, but there is a time to step up and defend yourself. In school it can be rough if you always walk away. People will see you as a chicken, a coward or just weak. I told son if he can walk away and boy just talks trash than so be it. But violence is to be a last resort.
I know my son. He can take the trash talk, but once someone starts pushing him, physically, you have invaded his space and have gone too far.

What do you think?

Some friends came over to visit for the weekend. So my son and me with friends go to Wal-mart. We did our shopping. Son got new earring, a half-loop with spikes on the end, 16 gauge earring. >.< He bought Japanese symbol for "love" for his girlfriend.
So we go to the car, and son wants a cup of shaved ice from street vendor selling outside Wal-mart. While he is busy trying to buy it, I jet off to Wal-mart gas station to get smokes and gas. Can still see him. Get into to car to pick him up....sees him standing on corner of parking divider. Takes a min or two to get to where he was....but parking lot traffic a little slow. We get there, and he is gone. Mind you....he was easy to spot wearing GREEN football jersey white large numbers "58" on it. Was easy to spot him, but now i don't see him. We drive around....thinking he is looking for us to meet us.....no where....I think maybe he had to run to bathroom....shaved ice.....he had to pee probably....we drive around some more. I then get out and look in store and open men's bathroom calling his name. NO answer. Worry starts to seep in......where da hell is he. I go back out to car.....we drive around some more. We think maybe he went to GameStop to look at video games. NO. Maybe he thought we left without him. Nah.....I think "he would never think that".... I go back inside Wal-mart, have him paged. Time goes by still no son. 30 mins have gone by. We decide to drive home the back way to see if he was walking home. No son. Get to house, he is not there. Worry......we go back the Wal-mart....eyes peeled on sidewalk, now going back different way than we came. No son.....really getting worried now. Go back into Wal-mart, page again. No son...... eek no idea where the hell he is. Now scared, worried he was abducted. See police man patrolling parking lot, wave him over. Tell him I am looking for son. He starts to search. Friends drive around and I go back inside Wal-mart to search for him, no son. Go back outside. Tell officer, paging him has not worked, and everything that had happened till then. Officer calls for re-enforcements. Really start to get scared. Go back into Wal-mart and ask them to call a code "ADAM" for missing child. Give them detailed description. Waits.....seems forever. No son. Grab Asst Manager, ask him to look at parking lot surveillance tapes to see where my son went or if he got into car with hopefully a friend. Getting desperate. Asst Manager starts to balk, saying I should page him again. It's already been an hour......and he wants me to wait some more. I then TOLD him, look at the tapes....if this is an abduction every minute counts. Finally he goes to back of store. Panicking starting to set in, tears welling in eyes, starting to think the worse, trying to rationalize....he is a big boy, linebacker for football team....he can defend himself if need be. Asst manager shows up, "Tape is not very clear, he may have been too close to the building. I'm sure the cops will find him!" a*****e!!!! Where is the compassion, doesn't he get that this is my child, my only child....my sun, my moon, my stars, my every breath....everything I do is for him. Why did he want to pawn off my son to just the cops to help locate him. Panic full fledged on. Crying now.....Jesus Christ....if anything happens to him......there would be no reason for me to live. Start praying, go outside and find friends....talk to cops, still no son. Friends drive back to house to check again. I sit on bench keeping my eyes peeled for him and start to call his friends....trying to be as coherent as possible. Two of his friends live real close to Wal-mart, start with them....no haven't heard from him or saw him. (hoping he walked over to thier house to call me)
Am starting to shake, call neighbor to check for him at house. Neighbor offers to help and and will search sidewalks for him and meet at store. Friends pull up, no son, no sign of him. Cops check back with me, NOTHING.....Now six police cars are in parking lot......losing it.....starting to shake and cry.........he is everything to me.........begging god.......don't take my son from me.........what else in life do I have to endure........life has never been easy........but this was way too much.......phone rings. It's my neighbor.......he was just leaving house to look for him, when son walked up. He had walked home. He thought we forgot him. eek Granted my son has walked to Wal-mart before on his own, but with a friend.....or in the day. But it was 9:30PM.
Got home, grabbed him and hugged him to death. (still crying) What were you thinking I asked him. He says he thought I forgot him. I countered with when have I ever forgotten him. Told him he knows that he means the world to me.....that he scared the s**t out of me. He should have stayed put, and waited. Told him I was not angry, just surprised he would ever think that I would forget him. Told him all what happened, cops, paging, checking surveilance tapes. He felt EXTREMELY bad, he hugged me hard, apologized, and said "Mom I didn't mean to scare you so bad. I just didn't think. I'm sorry I worried you."
How can i ever forget my son.....he is the reason I work. The reason I leave work early for to make his football game. The reason i even get up in the mornings. His existence is my whole reason to Live. If nothing else I ever achieve in life, to raise him to be a productive member in society, to be a great dad someday, to be a great husband someday, to be all he wants to be. If that is my only reason for existence....I was going to do the best job possible. I made that promise to him the day he was born, just him and me in that hospital room, as I brushed his hair and wondered how such a beautiful baby came out of me.
He is a wonderful son. He is one of the most compassionate kid I have ever known. he has the ability to put himself completely in someone else's shoes and see it from their every angle. He is very loving, and nurturing. He loves with all his being. He is not afraid to show affection. He takes time to play with the littlest of kids in our neighborhood, even though he is a typical teenager of 13, and can be rough as hell playing football or with his friends. He can be gentle with the little kids and plays big brother to them, giving them airplane rides or piggy backs rides. Getting his water gun to have water fights with them. These kids come to our door looking for him to come out to play, ages 3-12. One of his friends, always with his little brother and sister wanting to tag along, tries to ditch them, but son chastises him and tells him to bring them over to the house too, so they can get to play video games too. He is generous to a fault. He buys everything for his girlfriend with his own money....he babysits, washes cars, does odd and end jobs for money. When we are at the grocery store, before even a clerk offers to help a elder lady out, he will help her unload the groceries and offer to help her to the car with them. He is a perfect gentleman, ever since he was 3 and I told him that a gentleman always opens a door for a lady, he runs to open the door for any woman, especially for me. He is funny, he always comes home with stories from school of things that happened, or stuff that was said that was funny, or a new joke. He has a strong moral standard of his own. And he stands by it, when kids at school kept picking on this kid and calling him gay, even though he didn't know him that well. Son jumped up and told them all off, saying so what if he is gay, what does it matter to them, it's none of their business and they need something better do than pick on him. He told them that the only reason they pick on him is to feel better of themselves, shutting them all up.
I love my son, to very depths of my soul. But I not only love him as my son, but I fell in love with the person who he is becoming, a fine upstanding young man I would more than proudly call MY SON. How could I ever forget such an extraordinary individual. I admire him, I am amazed by him and the depths of his convictions. His compassion and understanding far surpasses most people I know or have met. I consider myself lucky to call myself his mother. And when he calls me "MOM" my heart always melts. He is my hero.