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I think the term 'boyfriend/girlfriend' has died. Or is slowly dying, in my generation. Or maybe it has always been this way. I don't know.

When I was younger, having a boyfriend meant that you genuinely liked that boy. And so..without a doubt, I got one. Because I liked him. Not because he looked cute with me, not because everyone made us, it was because I. Liked. Him. That was pretty much it. I didn't find any other criteria other than personality. If I liked him I liked him, simple as that.

I always thought the process was if you thought someone was cute or whatever, you're just attracted to them, you would talk to them. Then you would be friends. Time goes on. You're more comfortable. THEN you go out. NOT, you see someone you think is cute and you almost instantaneously ask them out, with no more than a few conversations between you two. I just don't see the logic in there. I really don't.

I'm not generalizing this, there ARE couples who I think are going out because they legitimately like each other. And those couples are the ones who ACTUALLY got to know each other before going out. ..which totally proves my point.

I don't understand why people hook up left and right, just for the sake of having a boyfriend or a girlfriend. It's like a medal, or something. Just something that you show off.

Or I could be wrong. This is just purely based on my observations.

~Vanessa