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I don't like to get into much detail about serious issues in my personal life, at least not in this journal. Therefore, I will not elaborate too much on the current situation, given how much is affects me personally. All I'll say is that my father is the most stubborn man on the planet.

He'll lecture other people about making threats, even when they haven't made a single one. Then, he'll just call acting aggressive a "potential threat". And he'll use this as an excuse to extend an awful, ongoing punishment for another year. (Note, the use of the word another.)

When pointed out how wearily often he gets aggressive, he'll agree that he too, is a potential threat. However, he will make excuses for his own actions, and never admit when he acts irrational. In his mind, he is noble and has never made any wrongs. Every time he's gotta shout at someone until their ears bleed, is only because they are a terrible person.

He also thinks that pointing out his irrational actions from this year is comparable to digging things up from when I was 6. Apples and Oranges, I say.

And while he likes to lecture others about hypothetical threats, he makes threats towards me out the other side of his mouth. Sure, he likes to hide his threats behind "ifs", but that doesn't change what they are. If I made the same threats, I'd be thrown through the ringer for saying something that hurt someone's feelings. Does this man not get that my thumb is more threatened in this house than everyone else's entire bodies combined?

He currently justifies this lengthy punishment that goes all the way back to 2017, because he doesn't like what I said once. Though, I'm certain that if my mouth was 100% squeaky clean, he wouldn't budge anyway. I say this from experience, because he's never budged on this before.

But you know what is the most stubborn thing he's said. He actually stated that what he's saying is "the truth" and that it "cannot be debated". He has the nerve to claim that he's completely right about everything, and that I should just shut up. Though he does not take into account that truth is more difficult to judge that he says. One cannot simply shut down debate, and know what the truth is. It takes more than a claim. It must be tested as well.

He's just making excuses now, to justify marginalizing me in my own house. And while he hides it behind "I love yous", that does not change what this is. I know he gets off to punishing me, and will find any excuse to do so. After all, he explains how stressed he is daily, and often uses this as an excuse to snap. He just needs a target in his family to vent on.

I seem to be the perfect target for several reasons. Firstly, I'm not a parent. I'm also male. I'm the oldest of his offspring. I have emotional problems of my own. And, he doesn't like my crossdressing. (Yes. He's admitted that.) All of that combined into one person make me someone that he can always take out his day onto.

I feel a lot better getting to vent this on my journal. Sure you'll agree that some people are just difficult. I'm trying to hold on best I can, even in a house that is clearly against me. But until then...

Be Right Back, World!