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 Posted: Sat Mar 24, 2007 11:24 am
I live with 3 Asperger's people (my husband and two teenage kids). For those of you not familiar with Asperger's it is basically high functioning Autism. My husband is having trouble adjusting to his new job and is driving all of us crazy. I am trying to be supportive but he is really being a jerk yelling at the kids and me. I know the job is not a good fit and he needs to find something else but we need the $$. How can I support him without losing my cool and keep some dignity in tacked. Also, I want to show the kids that mom is not just lowering herself to the husband but standing up while supporting him and the family. I don't want to be one of those old fashioned mom/wives. Any ideas? Suggestions?
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Posted: Sun Mar 25, 2007 11:36 pm
The problem here is, Autistic people, including those with Asperger's syndrome, don't have a sense of empathy. Try to explain how much it hurts you to see him angry and the children afraid. Tell him how you feel and tell him you're ready to listen for his troubles and offer support. Encourage him to search for another job and you yourself should maybe keep an eye on jobs that might suit him. Find out what he is interested in doing and ask around. Maybe you should also explain the situation to your children and tell them it will be okay as soon as their father gets used to his work or finds another one.
I've lived with an autistic sister and I've known many autistic people. They tend to have problems to understand other people's feelings, but they are still wonderful friends.
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Posted: Sat Apr 07, 2007 9:01 am
Wow... that is really rough. It is up to you to keep the family together because your husband will not be able to do it. Just explain to him that everything will be fine, and when he gets used to the new job, he will like it. People, with Autism, I assume take much longer to adjust to situations than "normal" people do. Just... explain to him that it does hurt you and the children to see him in such a fit. He will understand if you three demonstrate that to him.
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Posted: Mon Apr 30, 2007 6:04 pm
Awww... man, I am quite sorry to hear about all of that. I hope that by now everything is settled. If not, then ask one of your friends for help, I guess. I am not exactly an expert on this particular subject.
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Posted: Wed May 23, 2007 6:45 pm
I hope that she liked our advice.
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