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I just found out that my friend Katie* is pregnant. She's 15. And she wants to keep the baby. And she's actually glad she is pregnant. I've met her boyfriend, I think he would help raise him/her/it... but I'm concerned about her mother, because she mentioned casually that if her mother tries to force her to have an abortion, she'd run away. dot dot dot. I told her to talk to Planned Parenthood for counseling and testing just to be SURE that she is pregnant, but she thinks PP is only for abortions. What should I say to her, without being too nosy?

((changed her name for the sake of anonimity))

My friend's sister had a baby at 15 and they were so sure that they were going to be great parents and they were going to "play house" and live happily ever after... She is now 20 and the baby is being raised by her mom. At 15 you are not mature enough to have a baby. What will she do when all her friends are going to the movies? going 'clubbing'? What about school?

Raising a child takes so much of your time~It's a lot of hard work!

I think that you should encourage her to do some research~maybe on the internet since she is afraid of PP.

lol It's alright, I've talked to her some, and since she hasn't told her mom yet I'm still a little worried for her, but she knows that she's going to have to dedicate all her time to this baby... Although she plans on going to a local college, if she does go, I don't know...

ANYway... how do you think she should tell her mother?
EDIT: (oh, sorry, this is my mule ^_^)

About your friend, I would rather her talk to her boyfriend. He should take credit in helping her out. But if he's one of those guys who aren't committed, then you should tell your friend go to CPS or any local parenting association that will help your friend. If she wants to live with her mother thats one thing or if she wants to live on her own, she can get help. If she's planning on raising the baby and wants free medical, she should try and live on her own. Not in a sense in an apartment, she can live at a friends house and still collect money and medical from the state for being an dependant mother. If she's planning on continuing her education, she can go to school till she gives birth and then take classes at night or during the day.

There are a lot of options nowadays for teen mothers. I know because my sister-in-law was a teen mother and her boyfriend left her and her daughter. Now things are better for her, but just be supportive and let her know that you're always there to help. There's nothing wrong with being a friend in need.

oh and if you're wondering how I know a little too much, my parents are foster parents and my mother is a CPS worker.

i know exactly why you are worried heh...i thought it wouldnt be to bad when i had a baby....and truthfully for me its not....my name is katie and im 18 i dont know if yall would call me a teen-mom or not but its still to young to be having a baby...i have a 3 month old daughter heart ....as soon as i found out i was pregnant i called my mom and just said it...i thought for sure she was going to scream and hollar at me but all she said was well...shes was kinda happy lol yet a little dissappointed but thats in the past now....now she has a gorgous granddaughter and she loves her to death.....my daughters dad recently kicked me out of the house so yeah we have been going through a lot of hardships right now...but so far i think its been for the better for me seeing as i am groing up quicker then i ever thought i would....ok to your questions....you need to just be there for her...just be a friend....and if you are willing just tell her anything shes need youll help with....but yes there is a lot of help out there for teen-age moms she could easily get on medicaid...wic possibly....she just needs to gather information if she really going to keep the baby...probably the best way for her to tell her mom...seeing as i dont know her....might just need to sit her down and say mom theres something i need to tell you and just take it from there....idk this might not be great advise to some people but hey she really needs to get it done...

Your friend "Katie" has no idea what she's getting herself into. My stepmom got pregnant with my baby half-brother when she was 23 or so; she had been living with her dad when she met my still-married dad (the tramp), hadn't even finished collage, and decided that she wanted to have a baby. And now years later, she's still at that 2-year-collage, spending my dad's money on stuff for herself, neglecting her kids because she's too lazy and self-obsorbed to make them food, drive them to school, help them with their homework, teach them morals or ethics, or just take a moment of her precious relaxing time to remind those poor kids that she loves them.

She just gives them junk food and sits them in front of the tv so she doesn't have to deal with them, while my dad works 12 hour night shifts and sleepts during the day to support them (and can't be bothered to pay me and my sister child support) She wanted kids to "play mommy" and now that it's not fun, she's not interested in them anymore.

The only thing that's keeping those kids alive is that my dad is paying for them, her dad takes them off her hands occasionally, and my grandma (my dad's mom) does most of the house work. What makes your friend, who's 15, still in high school, and has a boyfriend who doesn't have a steady job thinks she's going to do any better?

Yeah, that's possible but it takes away your whole social life and literally everything you do centers around the baby. Most young peaple aren't ready for that or crack under the severe stress and pressure.

This is tough for her, and for you as her friend. If you know an adult she is close to, have a talk with them. She needs to get some good advise now. She will be making a life long commintment and needs lots of help with it. She will need her mother most of all at this time, and you can be sure she will hit the roof, but after getting adjusted to the idea, she will be the biggest help your friend with need. Sit and talk with your friend.