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Hmm... tough call. I think that, instead of confronting him and downright telling him she's a liar, I think it might be best if you just presented what you think of her, but don't force him to do anything- he's gotta make a decision by himself. This is a fragile situation, so you must take utmost care that he doesn't get hurt.

theres a slight problem with the counsler idea they know about him cutting and they dont really care

Tell him. If you can't then you aren't a good friend of his and are just a pathetic as the girl.

tell him, and make sure he knows u care for him and are there for him 100% so he might not kill himself or anything.

Well, it sounds like you friend needs a good kick in the balls. But the more senceable and more positive thing to do is to talk to him. The man has opened up to you, he trust's you and more impotantly your oppinion to be right. If you don't want your friend to be hurt, and if you want to set him on the right track, you should step up and confornt him. Tell him that when he asked you, you where timid and was taken off gaurd due to being asked the question; or something like that.

After telling him what you think don't just stop there. Help him come up with some way to tell her off. Not only does it sound like his present girlfriend is going to use him for support, she will probably destroy him further than he already is with cutting himself. hey, if your worried enough and like this guy enough, why dont you date him and help him the most that you can by making sure that he does have a good relationship with you.

What ever you do, good luck.

Just like the others before me, I don't know if I'm too late or not.


I, personally, have been very close to losing my mind very recently. Even when I was on the brink like that, however, I still wanted things to be said bluntly and honestly. Your friend has no use for lies, half truths, or things being hinted at.

It is simple, she did not get raped. Rape is a very traumatic experience, physically, mentally, and emotionally. She would not have been able to talk about it so freely. If it was "rape", and she didn't even resist at all, then was it really rape? Short answer is No.

Tell your friend that he has to leave her, because she doesn't care about him. If she wants help, then she should ask her so called rapist to help her...

On that rape bit again... if he was her friend, and raped her, then why would she even bother calling him a friend anymore? She doesn't care about him, but probably thinks he would make a better father than the turd who knocked her up.

Tell him, before he gets too deep into the problems of someone who only wants to use him, and just cares for money, and someone to hold the baby while she is out having fun. Make her live her life as the screw-up she is.

i think you should just tell him alone
on what you think
maybe start with a few questions like
"do you think she would tell you that she was raped, y'know someone improtant?"
"Do you completly trust you girlfriend?"
but those might be too personal

and why wont you just report to the police that she was raped?
that way
if she was trying to use you friend then she would be screwed
and if she was telling the truth then you have rid another raper
or whatever