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hi all, i have a problem, my parents are splitting up and let me clear this fact right now : I want to go with my father.
my mom cheated on my dad, kicked him out of the house, and now SHE is suing HIM!
to top it off she hardly lets us see him, and she uses excuses every time, "we dont have time to see dad", " stay with your aunt your dad is working", etc...

the bad thing is that the law is on mom's ( the evil) side, plus she wants the house that MY FATHER built, and she wants me and my brother, and she wants him to pay him 1460 dollars a month.

the only salvation we have is that social services is coming to ask who me and my brother want to go with, if we say dad, then the lawsuit is null and void, but they are gona speak in spanish ( i live in Puerto Rico)
and my brother doesnt know much spanish (dont ask me why)

i cant stand being near her, my brother and i are miserable with her, and we miss our father.

what can i do? icon_crying.gif

Do you want you think is right. If they go speak to your brother in Spanish you should demand someone who can speak English. Or you can be there with him. Translate. Ya know.

He is young. He needs someone by him.

I used to think both of my mother was a saint compared to my dad.
But as I got older and saw through things, I realized that she is not much better. Moral of the story: Sometimes you never really know a person.

I don't know your situation, but sometimes you don't know both sides of the story. I don't think it's fair for you to call your mother evil because she may have reasons for her actions that she believes you and your brother and too young to accept.

And unless something bad happened, like abuse, then in a divorce there should not be a single 'bad guy'... it's both parents who choose to divorce.
Your mom's lawyers are obviously going to be on her side because she is paying them, but if your dad gets lawyers too, then he'll have a chance of winning the lawsuit.

First of all, how old are you? I'm only asking because -this is not entirely right- if you're over 16 -I think- you can have a better chance at gong where you wanna stay. Tell the social services people what you think they'd like to hear through their questions but don't make it like you want to stay with your mother but instead you'd rather your father.

Tell them your brother doesn't speak Spanish. If he can't speak Spanish how on earth is he supposed to answer their questions? They should have a translator or something~

Also, talk to your mum. Ask her why she wants you so badly and play the emotional card a bit -I know it's mean but this situation needs it-. Ask why she wants to hurt your dad -probably good idea if you use a babyish name for your dad- so badly and why she wants the house your dad built for the family and how it won't be a family if she is going to continue tearing it apart. If she says you have been influenced by your father and gets all legal on you then your screwed and you WILL have to live with your mum

In that case -now I know this is mean but it is desperate measures. Threaten to leave your mother. Call minor newspapers or news broadcasts and ask them if you could have you story put in of how your cheating mother has stripped everything away from your father. A bit drastic yes but your mother sounds like she's been doing things more vile and soap-opera dramatic than normal people. True that she may want the best for you but keeping you from your father and taking his house is certainly not the best character building thing to do. AND NEVER STOP ASKING HER QUESTIONS! Such as, why would you cheat on dad? Why won't you let us see dad? Do you think its fair that you got HIS house? Emotional stuff like that. AND MAY I REMIND YOU, THIS IS DESPERATE MEASURES ONLY!!

Well then I am praying for your favored outcome wink