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this is a very difficult question. there can be times when it is both good and bad for you to lie. for example, a time when it's bad to lie would be if you knew someone were guilty of a crime, and yet you lied for them at the trial. you may think, on the other hand, that it was a good idea because you were on thier side of the case, but it would be a horrible action in the end. a time when it's ok to lie, is when the life of someone you beleive is innocent is on the line. now, small things, lie lyng about someone's appearance don't really matter that much to me. but this is all just my point of veiw. in the end, i would say your answer relies strictly in the situation

Lying is wrong if you lie to hurt someone, even if it's in order to get something you want badly. But there's technical exceptions, like if it's going to kill you if you don't, or if you are pursuing something in an effort of the greater good. No one can judge you for it, unless they plan on doing something about it. It's every man for itself in those kinds of situations.

Lying is perfectly fine if the other person wants you to lie to them.

Lying to me, though, is not all right, because I prefer the truth. If someone wants to tell me something "mean," and it's really what they think, I'd prefer it rather than them telling me that I'm fantastic or great at something.

brilliant... in our lives we make our own truths, to suit our own needs and help us sleep at night. so we all lie to ourselves. I have often said that the people who are happiest in life are the ones who can fool themselves. having said that, lying to yourself is fine, but lying to others if always wrong. even if its a "little white" lie to save someones feelings, its still a lie and its still very wrong. because people will eventually find out, and then they wont trust you. the truth hurts more then you could imagine, so dont ask questions you dont want to know the answer to. I would trust some a*****e who has never lied to me, more then I would someone who has kissed my butt everyday of my life. there will always be situations were you could lie to make someone feel good or not hurt there feelings, but dont. change the subject or somthing, or dont answer directly. example.....

your GF has put on a few pounds over the holidays because of all the food and not doing her Yoga... she ask "I think I am gaining weight, do I look fat?" you could say "oh no baby your dont look fat, are you sure the scale isnt broken?" thats a lie and you know it, she knows it and has lost respect for you... instead say, "dont worry about it baby you will always be beautiful to me, and everyone gains a little around this time of year anyway, hell look at santa.." she will laugh, then you should hug and kiss her. point is.. you didnt lie, and because of that she respects and trust you more.

personally, i think we shouldn't lie. i wish that, somehow, everyone on Earth would lose the ability to lie, even though i know that most of the human population would die or be injured as an eventual result. but, since that won't happen, i have to say that lying is necessary in life. the only way that never lying would really be a good practical thing is if every human being was completely reasonable/understanding, and we all know that isn't true.
even i lie a lot. but i still wish that nobody could anymore, including myself.

I gurantee that at least 90% of girls who say they want your honest opinion on something like that would throttle your neck -- or anyone else's neck for that matter -- if a guy compared them to Santa Claus. XD But personally, I really don't mind if a woman has a few pounds extra, because I don't like the brutally frail freaky toothpicks who could play the marimba with their own ribcage.

I think telling the truth is way better.
I believe being honest is better than lying.