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Well, here is the situation. I'm a 12th grader, and i have a girlfriend that is a freshmen. I'm dating her for probably a month or so now. Im 17, and she is 14, and she's not suppose to date. Now i deeply love her, and i'm her world. She was really depressed before meeting me and our marching band, and she's really happy. We were talking today, and i told her im afraid to mess up and not only leave her, but cheat on her as well.She said that even if i did cheat on her, she wouldnt want me to leave, and that without me she would be dead, which means she is suicidle. I'm a virgin and all, but there is another girl who i could see myself with, she is a year younger then me, and i could have had sex with her WHILE going out with my girlfriend now...and almost did till the point i though that my girlfriend means more to me then what i thought she did!

Now, the point of this little rant, was to just let some light in on you folks, the question i have is, should i be staying ith my girlfriend, who i love dearly and all, even though i never see her out of school cus she isnt suppose to be dating. Or should i leave her now, and cause less hurt, i mean, im not saying i want to leave her, but i really dont want to hurt her more and be a reason she dies or something. i mean, i have no problem waiting for her 3 years after i graduate, no problem with that at all, but im just scared i'll mess up from temptation....

Please help me.

If the relationship is strong enough then you should be able to wait for her no problem, as it is I think you're probably going to end up cheeting on her considering it was tempting although it won't be soon. I would build the girls heart and make her less temptid to kill herself, prepare her in other words for the enevidable and get her into a group that can help her if you do end up hurting her as a safe guard incase you do end up cheeting on her. All the same if you've stopped yourself once I think you may be able to do it again.

ahhh being young and have no clue what you want...those days are soo gone for me thank goodness.

Well you have doubts,
you said to yourself you are afraid to be tempted and cheat on her,
tells you straight up you're still young and can't be in a long committed relationship. (you're one of those Mrs. right at the moment...is what you need when it comes to relationships).

Tell her straight up what you feel and break up.
Don't stay because she is suicidal,
that's just staying for pitiness of her part,
the bad way to go it sounds like you are not happy with her having
doubts about staying or going and being tempted...she might say she would let you stay even if you cheat on her;
but if it hurts her she would still be attempting to kill herself.
But if you truely care about her tell her folks that she is depress and suicidal so she can seek help.
If she is suicidal no matter what the reason,
she will kill herself from her own misery,
and able to accomplish it.
You can say you love her dearly;
but with all honesty if you love her dearly,
there wouldn't be doubts and temptations or thinking of cheating on her.
Edit: Cheating on her would be a selfish act,
for your own pleasure;
and adding insults of more pain to her unstable injuries of miseries.

I believe that if she meant enough to you, than you wouldn't be having any urges. You would never want to be with another girl if you loved her enough to go such distances.

So, maybe staying with her isn't the best choice. Perhaps you should slowly step back, and ease away from the relationship. Ending it, if she is truly suicidal, could cause her to so something rash.