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Hilarious Conversationalist
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 Posted: Tue Feb 26, 2008 10:22 am
I think that it depends upon a few things...
1. Your religion/Family beliefs: My mother would probably not care all that much if I had sex before marriage, but she would be disappointed in me...I believe that someone should follow what their religion asks of them..For me, I wear a promise ring handed down from woman to woman in the family...It promises that I won't have sex until marriage, unless I'm certain that that is the man that I wish to either have a child with, or whom I know I will marry....
2. Your age: I mean, come on. SOme people are around thirty and they still haven't been married...And I know for certain that they've had relationships before they came of that age...I believe that if you truly have strong feelings for your partner, that you should be able to have some kind of intercourse with them....THe form, up to the person in question
3. Was it forced?: There are a lot of people today that are looked down upon because maybe they aren't a virgin anymore, and this just because the sex was forced upon them....Or that was all they were ever thought to expect form their partner...
But either way, in all, my belief is you should hold on to your virginity until the time comes that you feel you are COMPLETELY ready for it...And know that if a mishap happens, that you are ready to care for a child....
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Posted: Wed Mar 05, 2008 5:50 pm
My sister's friend was raped on Saturday night, and now she has the Herpes. So I agree with that totally. She just turned sixteen and she was raped somewhere. We don't know where, who, or precisely when as far as the hour, but now I'm sort of scared for my sister.
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Posted: Mon Mar 31, 2008 12:55 am
ur rude is that a question suitable for young players?! common sense! stressed scream
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Posted: Wed Apr 02, 2008 9:32 pm
shizzles11 ur rude is that a question suitable for young players?! common sense! stressed scream Young players shouldn't even be on Gaia. If you're talking to me, I suggest you get a year under your belt before whining like the incompetant newbie you are. My being rude is nothing, considering that at least I'm not a braindead nutjob like half of the people I've had the displeasure of speaking with, you included.
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Posted: Sun Jun 01, 2008 2:24 am
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Posted: Wed Jun 04, 2008 9:22 pm
i dont see whats so special about virginity. i never have.
it doesnt seem major to me. sooooo, i dont think sex is such a big deal.
granted im still holding the v-card, but i think if you and your partner are both totally okay with it, sure your ready *this would actually involve talking about it with each other*, and are safe, then when you have sex is up to you.
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Posted: Thu Jun 19, 2008 9:42 am
As long as u yourself are ready and make the proper preparations (birth control, condom, check if your partner has any sexually diseases that could pass to u, ect.) and are emotionally ready for possible pain, then i think it would be fine to have sex before marriage ...though i think it would be better to wait after marriage but there have been cases where waiting becomes impossible ..i mean the hormones are racing ...it can be hard to ignore especially if the person u care about wants to have sex with u neutral
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Posted: Mon Jun 30, 2008 5:39 am
In my opinion, the act itself is a consent thing. The informed choice bit is reasonable to expect too, but when it comes to 'regretting decisions made too early', many people still do make decisions on different topics and regret it later: investments, family issues, etc. I don't think the decision to be sexually active should be treated as if it were that much above the others. There are many things that could potentially ruin a life, and the amount of attention given to sex education might take priority from equally important issues that young people need to be educated more about.
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Posted: Sun Aug 03, 2008 9:33 pm
It really does refer to ones personal beliefs on the subject. The basis of which is whether you hold an emotional tie to sex. Some believe it is simply a way to achieve pleasure, while others state it can create an intense emotional relationship and should not be taken lightly so one could not hurt ones emotional state. Some people have unconcious (sp) emotional ties that they only find out about after the fact, and some have issues that make it impossible to form that kind of tie. It is a confusing verdict that can only be decided by the individual, thier emotional state, their beliefs and thier response to society's various beliefs on the subject.
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Posted: Sat Sep 06, 2008 10:55 pm
I guess it depends on the person, what they want to do. But someone like me shouldn't be looked down upon because I had sex earlier than marriage. I lost my virginity at 16, and guess what? After two and a half years I'm still with that same guy. But even if I wasn't, I wouldn't regret a single thing because at least I loved him at the time. I don't consider sex a dirty, shameful, sinful thing. I think it's the most beautiful thing, being able to share your body and pleasure with someone else who loves you as much as you love them.
I think it's important for it to be with someone you really care for and trust though, because safety is really important. If it's someone that really cares about you, they will inform you of any STIs, so you can take precautions not to get infected. Also, if pregnancy does occur, they'll be supportive and do everything they can to help and reach the best decision for both people.
I don't think it's necessary to wait until marriage though. It's a really beautiful pleasurable thing, and who can say whether any relationship will be forever anyway. I shouldn't be looked down upon for premarital sex, but if people want to wait until marriage that's their choice and I don't consider them any lower than me.
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Posted: Sun Sep 21, 2008 11:40 pm
Well, being that I don't believe in marriage, I'm bisexual and live with, both, my BF and my GF, I think that (for obvious reasons) sex is more of a personal choice. Emma and I have the best of both, and Darr is like one of them great, big, ol', contented house cats. If only he could purr!
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Posted: Tue Oct 07, 2008 6:30 pm
Is sex best saved until marriage? I think that is a personal decision but for me I don't think it's best saved until marriage. Marriage doesn't change the relationship, or at least it shouldn't. You and your partner should already have a relationship like a married couple (unconditional love, good problem solving skills, trust etc). If the couple doesn't have that before marriage they aren't going to have it after marriage. Sex has very little to do with. Don't get me wrong sex is great but that shouldn't be the reason why you are getting married. Also saving sex until marriage is not a cure all. It does not prevent divorce or infidelity.
Is being a virgin until marriage important? It is only as important as you make it. I for one didn't care that my fiance had multiple sexual partners especially after we got him tested and he was clean.
Do you have any religious/political beliefs that effect your choice? I reject religious doctrine so yeah I'm pretty liberal on this subject. As far as my political beliefs I believe that as long as the people involved are all of age and consenting I don't care what they do sexually (as long as it's not violating any one else's rights).
My biggest issue with sex is that people are not being taught accurate sexual education. Like I told my step sister, abstinence until marriage is great and everything, but you still need to know how to protect yourself and your partner and now we are going to have an in depth discussion how just in case you choose not to have kids when you marry or have sex before marriage.
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Posted: Sat Dec 06, 2008 1:43 pm
When a person chooses to lose their virginity, it is a choice best left to the person, and I can only hope a person facing that... choice is well aware of what they're doing and fully understands the decision they make.
In my own case, I didn't wait until marriage. Bluntly put, I was only 16, so I can't exactly brag that I waited all that long to have sex.
The only thing I thought of when making that decision, however, was if I would be okay with losing my virginity to that guy in the future. I can be very emotional, and being in a relationship where sex is involved, I knew that if we were to break up, I would probably deeply regret having sex.
So I had to come to terms with the fact that, whoever I chose to lose my virginity to, I would need to choose them based on what I can live with. I'm very happy with who I chose.
But maybe my idea is not accurate. I'm still dating that guy, two years later, and he's the only person I've had sex with. I just figured if I had to give advice on that sort of thing, I'd just tell them to pick someone you know you will not regret having lost your virginity to.
My boyfriend, actually, now that I remember it, was not a virgin when we first had sex. He lost his virginity to his previous girlfriend, and deeply regrets it to this day. He said if he could, he wouldn't have done it. When I asked him, he told me the only reason he really had sex with her was because they were both horny. He dated her for 4 months total.
Basically, wait until you're ready and it's with the right person, not just because you're feeling hot n' bothered. If you separate, then you should try and be happy with who you chose, not regret it. Just make sure it is not going to be regretted someday. That's what was important for me. =/
For the record, I'm not religious and I don't believe in saving your virginity until marriage. But if that's what you want to do, fine by me. sweatdrop
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Posted: Sat Dec 27, 2008 12:29 pm
I solemnly swear I am up to no good.
I don't know.
Too late for me.
I'd say it should be a choice, but not be too young. Like I think it's dumb how
it's illegal if you're not a certain age. What'll they do, kill you for sex? Saving it for marriage is a piece of crud to me, because I don't really believe in marriage.
Mischief managed.
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Posted: Sun Jan 04, 2009 5:23 pm
Well, as long as you and your partner know the consequences and risks, and have both give consent, it's your choice. Just as long as your educated about it.
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